I was recently reading a blog board discussion about whether to stay with your fiance/fiancee the night before the wedding. And I’ve seen some people question whether to stay together or not. There are pros and cons for this, depending on your views, desires, and superstitions.
To Stay Apart….
If you are superstitious and it would freak you out to see your significant other the day of the wedding but before being married (or whatever the fable is), then you might not want to stay together. You don’t need extra anxiety!
Some people want to separate the night before so that they can have “sleepovers” with their wedding party. I have read about brides who want to hang out with a best friend or a sister and either go out & party, play games, do last minute planning, or watch a movie. Or a combination of the three. If you decide to hav e a sleepover, here are some ideas for things to do!
Or To Stay Together…
If you don’t care about “traditions,” it might calm you to be with your soon-to-be husband/wife. The person is your best friend and someone you rely on for support, so it can be very calming to be with them the night before!
I was surprised to see that most people preferred to stay together than have a sleepover party or stay separate, though I think it makes sense. After all, aside from the moral support of the night, it is nice to wake up next to each other, embracing the last minutes of time alone for the day.
If you’re having a rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding, then it might impact what you decide to do. You’re already together & saying good night might be more difficult; or, it might be easier since you’ve spent the evening together already!
Also, if the rehearsal dinner and/or the ceremony isn’t near any family or friend and you might have to pay for two hotel rooms for the night (rather than just one), it might make sense to stay together.
What will you do? What do you think others should do?
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